Friday, April 24, 2015

Victim vs Survivor

I recently read an article about being a victim and the power attached to it and it made me question my need to explore the past again.  Do I really need to work through it?  Is this a crutch or an excuse to not move forward in my life?

After spending a couple of days thinking it through, I don't think it is.  The last time I explored my childhood in therapy was 10 years ago.  The therapist I had at the time told me I need to get over it.  To not think about it or dwell on it.  To live in the here and now.  Most of the time I do.  Sometimes the amount of energy it takes to push it down is overwhelming.  I believe I have to release this energy somehow.  I feel great sadness much of the time.  Lately it leaks out of me at the worst of times.  I am just not able to hide it anymore.

I will be seeing a new therapist who has been trained in trauma release.  I don't have to get into the nitty gritty details.  I just need to get the tools I need to work through the scars and turn them into lessons.  That what happened to me was not because of who I am as a person.  I try to stop the stories in my head.  I recognize them a lot more often.  I had a good day today.  The kids were home from school and we all went out together to run some errands and have a little ice cream treat.  I did some more work in the garden and did a little cleaning around the house.  I did not obsess (much) over numbers in my accounts or how long I will have to wait for the insurance payments to start up again.

It was a light day and I am grateful for that.

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